#LoveYourBodyDay

A beautiful day for celebrating every beautiful body in our world. No matter your size, shape, color of skin, gender, number of appendages, long hair or no hair, scars, whatever you see as a flaw or something to be unhappy about, I hope that you find your body beautiful and that you love your body as the sacredness it is. I sit here naked, writing this blog, seeing my own imperfections and bothered by a number of things I can feel but not see, see but not feel, etc. Yet, I love my body. I love my bones that make up my skeleton. It may have its flaws but it is just right for giving my body the support it needs to rise and sit, to walk, to lay down and rise up. I love my muscles that sometimes ache, but that make movement possible. I love my brain because it tells my body what to do, because it has a creative sense that I live through. I love my body because it holds my vital organs, my heart that loves so purely and fully, my healthy insides that keep me living and my sexual organs that keep me pleasured and capable of providing such pleasures to others. I love my skin that holds everything together tightly and supplies a soft, delicate outer shell to cover my nerves and blood vessels, veins, muscles, ligaments, tendons, muscles, bones, etc. While created for childbearing, I made the decision long ago to never become a mother but I am grateful for the opportunity had my choice been to do so. I am grateful for my pesky period every month and I love my body for the reminder that I am a healthy female.

Our bodies crave touch, we should never deny that. Whether through self touch or the touch of another, bodies react and are aroused and beg to be pleasured. This is why we have sex for fun and not just for creating new life. REcreation sex and not just PROcreation sex. We should love not only our own bodies, but the bodies around us as well. Without judgement. We are all human. We are all so much more than our bodies. We bleed the same, we all have souls (or whatever philosophical equivalent of your choice), we all have emotions and feelings. Being shamed because of how our bodies look or what they are or aren’t capable of is unacceptable and doesn't serve us in any good capacity. It is not okay for us to shame ourselves and is certainly not okay for us to shame each other. Overweight people need to be loved and touched and pleasured, people with handicaps -- wheelchair-bound or not -- have bodies that deserve the most pleasure their bodies are capable of receiving and giving and all genders are equal and deserve to love their bodies and to feel all the love we have to give. Every human is deserving. Every human is worthy. While some bodies may be unhealthy, crafted differently from our own, suffered trauma and lost limbs, were born with deformities, etc. Everybody should be loved. There is no justified reason to not love a body or to judge another human for having a body different from our own. We should love bodies no matter the appearance, because our bodies are our life support systems, and without our bodies, we would not experience living. Sure, we see imperfections or flaws that without society’s critiques, would otherwise go unnoticed. But, loving our bodies is important for acceptance, for ourselves and for others, everyone deserves to feel accepted and loved.

Many people struggle with loving their bodies. Especially victims of sexual abuse, particularly those that were abused as children. Sexual abuse damages not only our emotional and mental health but our physical acceptance of ourselves and often of others because of a lack of trust and a broken past. I want to live in a world where it is natural for us to help one another and give everyone unconditional and unprovoked love, for just being human. For simply existing. We don’t love because of appearance, we love for who a person is and the connections that we have are far deeper than surface appearance and skin, at least that is the ideal we are capable of.

So, let’s embrace one another, spread love for all bodies for all humans. Let’s get sexy with whoever we please (granted consent is provided) and appreciate and love their bodies. Let’s work on ourselves and loving our own bodies. Sex is an activity that most of us enjoy, bodies colliding and penetration from one body into another, sex is a beautiful thing and without love for the bodies involved, it is never as mind blowing and delicious as it truly can and should be. Don’t be clouded with self body shaming or judging the body or bodies of those you are enjoying sex with. Let go of the so-called "imperfections," stop focusing on flaws and learn to truly love each and every body, to accept all bodies. There are so many terrific songs that come to mind when thinking about bodies. One that I want to leave for you is “Body to Body, Heart to Heart” by Cher, written by Diane Warren. Please enjoy and as always please love yourself and each other.

Body to body, body to body

Heart to heart

Body to body, body to body

Heart to heart

Looking in your eyes tonight

I can see everything I need

Holding your heart close to mine

Feeling you, breathing you

We melt together, two become as one

Night is burning hotter than the sun

When I'm with you

I could drown in your eyes